Lately I’ve been getting caught up in moments where I’m taken back to my high school days and early college years, taken back to things I said, things I did, people I hung around with, the way I dressed.
It totally blows my mind how all of those memories were actually my memories, my stories.
And to be honest, I was a different girl. And what blows my mind even more is when I look a myself now…
I’m like, totally whoa.
Who is this girl?
Or rather, who was that other girl, that other me?
Was that who I really am, or is this who I really am?
I recently overheard a conversation between a couple of people I know about their ongoing activities together. I think I just happened to look over and make eye contact, so one of them asked, “Why don’t you ever come out with us?”
And I said:
“Why don’t you ever invite me?”
To which one responded: “We’ll invite you next time.”
To which I responded, rather playfully: “Is it because I don’t drink?”
“Nooo, we don’t drink when we *name activity here*.”
Mhmmm, I though to myself. Sure you don’t. And suuuure that wasn’t your reason for not inviting me.
I know how it is sometimes.
Oh that girl? She doesn’t drink anymore. Don’t invite her, she’s no fun.
They may not say it, but I know some people think it.
I’m not that “cool,” rebellious chick that everyone admires.
And really, I probably wouldn’t have gone out with these people. Not because I don’t want to hang out with them, but because I think I would have felt kind of awkward.
Why, you may wonder?
Well over the last two years or so, probably around the time I really stopped drinking, I noticed I started to shy away from making acquaintances at school, at work, anywhere I normally would, really, and I think it’s because I felt and still feel like I can never really bond with people, like I can’t really relate to them all that much anymore because a lot of my tastes have changed in many ways.
So I just stay away. This may or may not be the best thing to do, but it’s just what I’ve started doing after awhile.
I’ll be real, here: My social life resulted in a few relationships being messed up, and many relationships were formed that should have never been formed. It’s because of those situations that I think I’m way better off not being as social as I was, at least not in those kind of environments Boy, I feel like just this paragraph can be a blog post on it’s own…
And naturally after two years of “social abstinence,” I’m pretty awkward.
*Refer to previous TBC post to read my definition of “social abstinence”.
“Come out with us this weekend!”
“Sweet, I’m in. What’re we doing??”
Well shoot…I’m out.
Womp womp womp.
But that is how it has to be, my friends. What am I going to do bar hopping? Spend money on expensive soda while trying to yell over loud bar music? No thanks. I need to be different from the world, I need to be set apart, trying my best to avoid the things that can bring me down.
That is what He calls us to do, not to blend in with the crowd.
Look, I know what you may be thinking…
“You’re being way too judgmental and legalistic, Em. We’re all sinners. Nobody’s perfect. We are in the world, after all.”
Yes, some of that may be true, but I strongly believe and have reason to believe there are things in this world people as followers of Christ really should not be doing…at all…not even a little bit.
Think about who it is we are supposed to be representing…
I read the other day that
“We(I) have spent enough time involved with worldly people, when we (I) took part in lewdness, lusts, drunkenness, revelries, drinking parties…”
And it’s so true. I spent a lot of my time doing those things Peter says they (we) wasted time doing and need to stop doing.
So I woke up from the daze and confusion of the life I was living. I’m fighting against my fleshly desires to do what is right in His eyes, to be set apart, to be a special people…
To suffer for what is good.
( “Wait, fighting? suffering? Why would a God of love want us to fight and suffer?” I’ll try to address this in another post… Part 3 maybe?)
And really, why would I go around saying I’m “Christian” when I act like everyone else? How can I be God’s special possession when I’m still flirting around in darkness?
Until Part 3,