Hello everyone! So I’ve been lagging on posts- I have about five that have been lingering in my drafts for ages. I really have to get on that. Does anyone else have the same issue as I do? When you know you have to work on projects, but getting to a starting point is difficult? Once I start though, the momentum kicks in and I have a hard time stopping haha. Any time limits I give myself go out the window… something else I need to work on.
But anyway, I’m going to kick off my writing projects list with this post 😀
Let’s dooo thissss.
Okay, so I may not have any statistics to back this up, but I’m going to just go out on a limb here and say many of us—dare I say most of us?—like gossip.
Yes, let’s just admit it. In some way or other, we like to hear something said about someone else. We like to say stuff about someone else. Something that in some way makes us feel better.
It’s not an easy thing to admit, I get that. I like to pretend I don’t like gossip.
But listening to or taking part in gossip is almost like a driving force, a desire within us that feels impossible to stop.
“It’s not really gossip. I’m just talking about it with other people to, you know, get advice.”
Fine. I can see that. But realllyyy thougghhh?
Based on Ecclesiastes 10:1, an author writes: “However contracted may be our sphere, we still exert an influence for weal or woe. …one rash act, one thoughtless word, on our part may exert so deep an influence on the life of another that it will prove the ruin of his soul. Every act, every word, is a seed that will bear fruit. Every deed of thoughtful kindness…of self-denial, will reproduce itself in others…” Prophets & Kings, page 85,86
That is crazy. Not gossiping could most definitely be an act of self-denial—holding back our words because we know we shouldn’t say them. Do any of us ever think about what we say, or how our words affect others? Or are we so trapped in our emotions at the time that we don’t even think about what we’re going to say- we just say it?
Okay, now for the biblical texts.
–Prov. 17:9 says he who repeats a matter separates friends.
–1 John 3:15 says whoever hates anyone is a murderer, and murderers don’t have eternal life within them…
Do we repeat matters we shouldn’t be repeating? Do we gossip because we don’t like someone?
Or do we gossip just because it’s well, fun?
Ultimately, we have to watch what we say to people, about people, and around people. Gossip might feel good in the moment (like every other sin) but comes with negative repercussions (like every other sin).
What those of us with big mouths need to recite is Psalm 141:3,4:
“Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; Keep watch over the door of my lips.”
Write that down. Put it in our pocket. Look at it every day.
Sometimes things truly are better left unsaid.
And I for one have to be okay with not hearing the latest gossip. That’s going to be a challenge.
“Every day, our words and acts are making impressions upon those with whom we associate. How great the need that we set a watch upon our lips and guard carefully our steps! One reckless movement, one imprudent step, and the surging waves of some strong temptation may sweep a soul into the downward path…
On the other hand, if by our example we aid others in the development of good principles, we give them power to do good. In their turn they exert the same beneficial influence over others. Thus hundreds and thousands are helped by our unconscious influence. The true follower of Christ strengthens the good purposes of all with whom he comes in contact. Before an unbelieving, sin-loving world he reveals the power of God’s grace and the perfection of His character.” -Prophets & Kings, page 238
Let us aid others in the development of good principles, not feed the ugly, gossiping monster within. Let us reveal love. And as Christ’s disciples, let us rememeber who we are representing.