Soooo I am learning how to balance capturing enough blog/vlog content AND enjoying the moment/being present. So much so, that I forgot to capture footage for Sydney ENTIRELY >.< But I still hope you enjoy it anyway hehe.
Hello everyone! So I’ve been lagging on posts- I have about five that have been lingering in my drafts for ages. I really have to get on that. Does anyone else have the same issue as I do? When you know you have to work on projects, but getting to a starting point is difficult? Once I start though, the momentum kicks in and I have a hard time stopping haha. Any time limits I give myself go out the window… something else I need to work on.
But anyway, I’m going to kick off my writing projects list with this post 😀
Let’s dooo thissss.
Okay, so I may not have any statistics to back this up, but I’m going to just go out on a limb here and say many of us—dare I say most of us?—like gossip.
Yes, let’s just admit it. In some way or other, we like to hear something said about someone else. We like to say stuff about someone else. Something that in some way makes us feel better.
It’s not an easy thing to admit, I get that. I like to pretend I don’t like gossip.
But listening to or taking part in gossip is almost like a driving force, a desire within us that feels impossible to stop.
“It’s not really gossip. I’m just talking about it with other people to, you know, get advice.”
Fine. I can see that. But realllyyy thougghhh?
Based on Ecclesiastes 10:1, an author writes: “However contracted may be our sphere, we still exert an influence for weal or woe. …one rash act, one thoughtless word, on our part may exert so deep an influence on the life of another that it will prove the ruin of his soul. Every act, every word, is a seed that will bear fruit. Every deed of thoughtful kindness…of self-denial, will reproduce itself in others…” Prophets & Kings, page 85,86
That is crazy. Not gossiping could most definitely be an act of self-denial—holding back our words because we know we shouldn’t say them. Do any of us ever think about what we say, or how our words affect others? Or are we so trapped in our emotions at the time that we don’t even think about what we’re going to say- we just say it?
Okay, now for the biblical texts.
–Prov. 17:9 says he who repeats a matter separates friends.
–1 John 3:15 says whoever hates anyone is a murderer, and murderers don’t have eternal life within them…
Do we repeat matters we shouldn’t be repeating? Do we gossip because we don’t like someone?
Or do we gossip just because it’s well, fun?
Ultimately, we have to watch what we say to people, about people, and around people. Gossip might feel good in the moment (like every other sin) but comes with negative repercussions (like every other sin).
What those of us with big mouths need to recite is Psalm 141:3,4:
“Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; Keep watch over the door of my lips.”
Write that down. Put it in our pocket. Look at it every day.
Sometimes things truly are better left unsaid.
And I for one have to be okay with not hearing the latest gossip. That’s going to be a challenge.
“Every day, our words and acts are making impressions upon those with whom we associate. How great the need that we set a watch upon our lips and guard carefully our steps! One reckless movement, one imprudent step, and the surging waves of some strong temptation may sweep a soul into the downward path…
On the other hand, if by our example we aid others in the development of good principles, we give them power to do good. In their turn they exert the same beneficial influence over others. Thus hundreds and thousands are helped by our unconscious influence. The true follower of Christ strengthens the good purposes of all with whom he comes in contact. Before an unbelieving, sin-loving world he reveals the power of God’s grace and the perfection of His character.” -Prophets & Kings, page 238
Let us aid others in the development of good principles, not feed the ugly, gossiping monster within. Let us reveal love. And as Christ’s disciples, let us rememeber who we are representing.
In my reading of 1 John 1 and 2, I was impressed by the ideas of brotherly love.
Those in the Christian world often hear the theme of “love your neighbor” and “love one another.”
Some people say that loving one another is the greatest of great commandments, the Golden Rule.
But how often do we actually do that?
How do we practice this?
I can’t even express how teeth-grinding it is for me to see hatred and bigotry portrayed and justified by using biblical texts. It makes me crazy. These hateful people declaring their hatred in the name of God is the example of Christianity they give to the world.
And we wonder why people hate Christians.
Guys, this loving your neighbor theme is serious. The Bible says if we truly love God we will love our brother also ( 1 John 4:21).
My understanding is that if I don’t love my neighbor, I don’t truly love God.
We need to extend that love to everyone—including the people we don’t like.
For me, that means including those “Christians” who spew Bible verses in order to justify their racism. And the people who say awful things about my religious group. And the friends who say (indirectly) that I’m stupid for believing in God and not in “science.”
How do we develop that love? How often do we put ourselves last and other first?
Let’s all try to develop that kind of love this week, that Christ-like love God wants us all to have.
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How dislike, jealousy, covetousness, bitterness grows into actual hate. What do we do about it?
I’ve been reading a lot lately about loving one another. I mean, I even have several posts already written (and in the process of being written) that are all about this idea of brotherly love.
I’m currently reading a book by Karen Ehman titled Listen, Love, Repeat: Other-Centered Living in a Self-Centered World.
While I read part of me thinks, “Oh yeah, I know this,” or “Oh yeah, I can do that.”
But truth be told, I’m actually struggling.
1 John 2:11 But he that hateth his brother is in darkness, and walketh in darkness, and knoweth not whither he goeth, because that darkness hath blinded his eyes.
I’m blinded by dislike/jealousy/bitterness/envy/competitive spirit/fill-in-the-blank-here that I feel like I am walking in darkness.
And even worse, these fiery feelings have been fanned for so long that for the first time I feel like it’s breeding into actual hate.
And that’s some really dangerous ground.
1 John 3:15 Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.
A murderer!? Who has no eternal life? YIKES.
So what do I do about it? How do I handle these feelings?
I know I’m being tested. I know I have to trust God and talk to Him about this every day…
But instead of these feelings going away, I feel they’re becoming more grounded in my heart.
WHY? What’s going on?
Am I doing something wrong? Is there more I could do?
This has to change. No matter how we may feel about a person, those who claim the Christian name should not express hate, AT ALL.
And yet, it’s burning in my heart.
I’ve been given this advice: You don’t have to like a person, but you do need to love them.
I know I need help.
I don’t care how you do it, just change me.
Have you ever wondered if you needed to change?
Does anybody ever think that?
I mean really, who admits there is some part about them that is flawed and needs fixing?
And what do we do about it when we do admit we need change?
A lot of people just tell themselves and the world “Hey, that’s just the way I am. And all ya’ll just have to deal with it.”
But then you have those others who only focus on the things they need to change. The ones who find flaws in almost every part of their character.
But who tells them they need to change? Who defines what are acceptable and unacceptable traits?
Do we let people tell us what we need to change, or do we find out for ourselves? But it’s not like we can just ask ourselves in the mirror one day “Hey what do I have to change today?”
What do we change, and how?
What traits are just a part of who we are?
And where do we find freedom?
I’ve often asked myself this question. It’s a legitimate concern for me because I love music and I love going to shows. I love the feeling music alone gives me, and the power of performances is like nothing else.
So in light of what happened at a concert in Manchester recently, the question popped up again: If I died at a concert, would I go to heaven?
(*Note: I’m not at all giving any kind of judgment to any of those people who lost their lives at that concert in Manchester. My heart aches when tragedies like these occur. I don’t know their lives nor their hearts, and I’m not here to sentence anyone—that’s not my job.)
I’ve gone to countless shows. I’ve even seen one band nearly 20 times alone.
Here’s the thing though.
Within the last maybe year or so, I’ve really felt my concert-going days would soon be over for me. I felt God was calling me to set my mind on things above, and going to shows was something I had to let go of. If I’m honest (though through gritted teeth), I think it’s a pretty clear conviction for me.
Though yes, I’ve tried to ignore it. There are many, many concerts I want to go to this year. If I go to one of these concerts and end up dying, what does that mean for me? Where will I end up? Would my Christian life up to that point not matter? Did I just damn myself by that one decision, that one choice to go?
Is it dangerous to do something we know we shouldn’t be doing? Where do justice, grace, and mercy come into play?
Does ignoring our convictions and rationalizing them away end up leading us to an inevitable path of destruction?